The Wee Tween Stalker Girl…

First, let me say how happy I am to be back online.  I will try not to throw everything and the kitchen sink from the last 3 weeks into this one blog…

Now, on to the subject at hand.  My 12-year-old son has been “going with” this lovely young lady from his class.  She’s been to our house to visit and we’ve all gone to the movies.  I noticed pretty early on, though, that she has the tendancy to call on the phone…a LOT.  I think back to my childhood when my dad would just go crazy over the constantly ringing phone and I try to be nice about it.  Then I notice that Dalton (my boy wonder) is less than impressed with the constant phone calls.  Not one to want conflict,* he will take all of the calls and be polite, but you could see that he doesn’t appreciate it.  *I would like to note that his desire to avoid conflict does not extend to his mother.  He has no problem telling me exactly what he thinks about any and everything.  How did I get so lucky?  It was probably all of that “don’t be a sheeple, forge your own path crap I taught him, but I digress.

So, I talked with him about the phone calls.  Yes, he is annoyed.  No, he doesn’t want to be mean.  But, then she began breaking the cardinal rule.  No calls to his cell phone unless it is from another phone on his network.  I was cool enough to get him a phone (he doesn’t realize it’s mainly for my benefit, so that I always know where and how he is), but not cool enough to get him a big, fat, expensive phone plan.  I opted for pre-paid in his case.  So, he has unlimited mobile-to mobile on his network and unlimited text, but if someone calls him from any other mobile network or from a home phone, it uses up his money. He takes this VERY seriously.  She has broken this rule multiple times and yesterday I watched as his anger level reached new heights and he told her, “MY MOM SAID IF YOU DON’T STOP CALLING MY CELL PHONE AND USING UP MY MONEY, SHE IS GOING TO CHANGE MY PHONE NUMBER!” 

WHAT????  Even though I agree wholeheartedly, how the hell did I get put in the middle of this mess?  I was driving down the road, minding my own business, thankyouverymuch!  I whipped around to look at him and he just apologetically shrugged his shoulders at me.  cute little turd.  Apparently the little girl’s reaction to this was to not even acknowledge what he had just said and to just continue talking.

I will say this, though.  I’ve considered calling her parents to suggest they groom her for a very successful career in sales.  I’ve never seen anyone with so much persistance.  If Dalton isn’t home, this is how my evening goes:  The home phone rings.  I see it’s her.  I hit the ignore button.  6 seconds pass.  My cell phone rings.  I see it’s her.  I hit the ignore button.  6 seconds pass.  The home phone rings….  do you see the pattern?  Her record is 16 calls between the home and my cell phone in two and a half hours.  I used to answer and explain that he wasn’t home and that I would have him call her back when he returned.  She clearly thinks I’m a fat liar because she always just waited half an hour and called back anyway. 

Two times in my son’s life I have suggested that maybe I should call another child’s parents to resolve an issue he is having.  He didn’t like the idea 6 years ago when the little boy wouldn’t stop picking on him and, apparently, he doesn’t like it any better now.  “MOUMMMM!  YOU CAN’T CALL HER PARENTTSSSSS!  EVERYONE WILL THINK I’M A BIG BABYYYYYYY!  

So, what do you think?  Future psycho or just very persistant?